We Need To Hang Out Again
Going to a third space makes you feel normal
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Today’s article is going to be simple and straight to the point—you need to go places—with other people—and do things.
These places need to have a number of qualities:
None of you can live there.
None of you can work there.
We need to go out with family and friends, to places, that aren’t work, or home.
That’s it! That’s the article!
I’ll stretch it out a little though so it has, I dunno, more more.
The reason to do this is simple: It sucks to only be at home or work. If you are an uber introvert, you might like this and still, you need to be around people. Humans are social creatures and we need one another. There’s some feedback—cellular—thingamabob that gets triggered by being around other people.
It trips a reward center that says, “Hey. You hung out! Good for you!”
It’s kind of like one of those inventory management games where you need to make sure that the horses in the stable are given water or they’ll break out and you have to go get them back.
Not the most important part of the game and not trivial in consequence. It’s a pain when the horses get out.
Think of it as a minimum to play the game optimally. Like a minimum amount of sleep or a minimum amount of water.
There is a minimum amount of people, and it’s greater than zero.
So you need a third place. What’s a third place?
Not home.
Not work.
Common third places are restaurants. Going out for a bite to eat fulfills some of this need however, going out post covid sucks.
Everything is expensive, the service sucks, people are tense, the food isn’t good, and there’s a lightness missing from the air. I think we can get it back however we gotta go out and get used to going out again. It’s worth getting back.
There’s bars but f that. Americans need to stop equating booze with fun. The bars have been kind of depressing to. It’s like getting a drink in a foreign country after being there too long. It feels fake and not what you need.
You could get into pickle ball. I hear that’s big now. Personally I’d rather do disc golf. More my speed. If I didn’t have jerk dogs maybe.
House parties? Suuuuuuuuuure but make sure you’re not the only one doing all the planning. Go to other people’s parties and have fun. Don’t be judgy about it.
You could go to minigolf! Personally, I’m the biggest fan of minigolf in the world. I think it’s been ten years since I’ve played and that makes me sad.
I’ve noticed that adults do different things going out. Going out to a dinner class seems to be something adults do. You see someone explain how a fancy dinner is made. You bring your own bottle of wine. You share it on Instagram, it’s a good time.
You could see movies, but all those are trash so nevermind.
I hear there’s a new Harry Potter Game all the kids are playing so maybe you could do a lan party? That’d be cool!
This is really all I got kids.
The story's moral is to go out and do things with people. It’s good for you and is the fastest way for things to “get back to normal” again.
